The 5Cs to Having a Long Term Relationship
Having a companion that you can count on gives us a reassuring feeling. Humans love the feeling of being in love. But sometimes, the love that we feel towards another person fades because of issues we cannot resolve. In reality, there is no secret to having a successful relationship. But of course, any relationship, either friendly or romantic, requires attention, nurturing and understanding from both parties.
The 5Cs of long term relationship is not the secret to having a successful relationship. Long relationships may still turn sour and fail. But what’s written here are just guidelines that you may want to keep in mind whenever you doubt yourself or your partner or the relationship itself.
- Commonality - Attraction starts from commonality. Shared beliefs and values, no doubt, strengthen a relationship. When two people believe in the same thing, a different kind of connection will be built between them. Through discussing your favourite music or food, you and your partner are already bonding. The commonalities that you have should make your relationship stronger. But remember that the differences that you have should make your relationship unbreakable. Read on to find out why.
- Correlate - There are no perfect relationships, just perfect situations wherein you should devour yourself into. I am not saying that you should try hard to fit into the kind of music that she likes or you should tag along with him every time he watches his favourite basketball team, (that you hate, by the way). Through correlating, you are respecting each other’s differences. Accept that even if you share a number of values, you are still two different individuals functioning in your own world.
- Communicate - Relationships die not because of problems, relationships die because of arguments, or the lack of it. If two people cannot find time to discuss matters that bother them both, the relationship will sink into the pits of hate and sadness. However, having communication doesn’t necessarily mean that you should argue. Remember that when you choose to communicate, you choose to solve the problem and not win the argument.
- Compromise - Relationships are meant to be two-way. Giving and taking is involved. You shouldn’t only take, you should also give. There will come a time when you’ll feel taken for granted. Brush off the feeling. Feelings are not meant to be weighed, they should be felt. If you are happy to give more than what you are receiving, embrace the idea and be comfortable with it. Besides, you don’t need anybody’s approval to be happy.
- Compensate - Being in a relationship will not always involve seeing rainbows and feeling butterflies in your stomach. Whenever you feel that you have done something that caused your partner to feel down, make time to make him or her feel the other way around. Don’t lose the spark. Think of the small things that will make him or her smile. Small things count the most.
Love is bliss. When you are already at the verge of giving up, remember what made your heart skip when you saw the person that you are with now.
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