Men Getting Married
When you were still a bit younger, you see marriage as the intravenous that injects butterflies in your stomach. During that time, you still see marriage as something that will tickle your fantasy. But as you grow older, you get to realize that marriage is a serious thing -- a step that cannot be taken backwards. With the commercials, TV shows and movies that we see at present, we get an impression that marriage is a horrible situation that we should avoid as much as possible. But that is not true. Marriage could work if the woman’s specifications for his ideal husband are not merely about being tall, dark and handsome. This goes also for men. Men should not only look for a woman who is blonde, skinny and hot. Instead, your ideal partner should:
Share your belief. You should share the same beliefs with your partner. This is probably the same reason why some religions require their members to find a partner who believes in the same religion that they have. Imagine building a family where parents have contradicting religions. There could be a possibility that the child would grow up confused.
Make you a better person. Your ideal partner doesn’t necessarily need to change you. That person should just bring out the best in you. If you think that your partner now motivates you to be a better version of yourself, then don’t you ever make the mistake of letting that person go.
Be smart. Looks are nothing without the brain. Imagine being with a person who cannot offer you logical solutions to grown up problems. It is like carrying an extra baggage everywhere instead of sharing the burdens together. Also, opt for a partner who is smart when it comes to handling emotions. Your partner should be emotionally stable. I’m quite sure that you would not want to end up with a person who would start a fight over the littlest things.
Be sociable. Your partner should know that aside from having him or her, you have your friends and family as well. Humans are sociable beings. We should not be confined into the box of marriage after tying the knot. Your partner should understand that you need to see other important people in your life as well. And most importantly, your partner should get along well with your family and friends.
Be your friend. Romance is nothing without friendship. Your lover should be your friend. If you cannot open up your problems to your partner, then I’m sorry to say this, but that person is not the right one for you. An ideal lifetime partner doesn’t intimidate you to tell the truth. Honesty is one of the factors for a strong marriage. Also, make sure that you can laugh together about the silliest things or corniest jokes. A good laugh is best shared with your friend. Mind you, humor is also a sign of a person’s intelligence.
Marriage is not a walk in the park -- it is pure hard work, love and dedication to keep the love burning. But if you are with the right person and the time is already right, nothing about marriage should make you feel scared. Remember: love is not supposed to create agony; it is supposed to make you happy.
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