Coping with a Bad Break-Up
A romantic relationship that ends in a bad break-up is not something that you can get over with overnight. It takes time and effort to move on from such phase. During this time, emotions are commonly very high. Some couples who ended their relationship on a bad note even turn against each other, or it could be the total opposite. They can be cold with each other and be totally indifferent, as if they never were once in love. People have different ways of reacting to such circumstance. If you are experiencing something like this at this moment, here are some tips that you can take note of to help you cope.
Talk to your family and friends. This is perhaps one of those times when you need a strong support system. Talking to your family and trusted friends will help you feel better. Remember, you are not there to talk about your ex’s faults, what you have to concentrate on is yourself. Share them how you feel, your pain, your thoughts and your plans. Never make it a ‘we-hate-my-ex’ talk because it won’t help you, in fact, it might just not make you look good as well.
Don’t communicate with your ex, if you’re still upset or angry. Who says closures meant bashing your ex before saying goodbye? Some people feel the need to have the last word, or to finally put a clear period over something. It’s all right. But remember that this should be done when you’re no longer emotional. Your mind should be clear and your thoughts arranged. If you are angry, you are only prone to saying hurtful words you don’t really mean (or you may mean them, but only for that moment, anyway.) so be aware.
Store away things or mementos that remind you of your ex. It’s not healthy to surround yourself with things your ex gave you, or anything that reminds you of your ex. Well, that is while you are in your recovery phase. They will only make you feel sad or angry, or whatever emotion your ex invokes in you. Instead, surround yourself with new things that can make you feel more positive like pictures of your friends and family.
Be active or try a new sport. Instead of wallowing in your sorrows, go out and try something different. Try your hand at a new sport and challenge yourself. Being active will take your mind away from your pain. Your attention will be diverted elsewhere, especially if you’re idle most of the time. In the end, you will be doing yourself and your health a favor.
Keep in mind that a bad break-up does not always have to be about angry words, bucketful of tears and being depressed. You can get through this phase by having a positive mindset. Remember that the pain may be hard to bear, but this is only temporary, no matter how long it takes to get over with.
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